Did you know you give up your boundaries in a relationship when you:

• Are unclear about your preferences.
  
  
• Do not notice unhappiness since enduring is your concern.
  
  
• Alter your behavior, plans, or opinions to fit the current moods or circumstances of another (live reactively).
  
  
• Do more and more for less and less.
  
  
• Take as the truth the most recent opinion you’ve heard.
  
  
• Live hopefully while wishing and waiting.
  
  
• Are satisfied if you are coping and surviving.
  
  
• Let the other’s minimal improvement maintain your stalemate.
  
  
• Have few hobbies because you have no attention span for self-directed activity.
  
  
• Make exceptions for a person for things you would not tolerate in anyone else; accept alibis.
  
  
• Are manipulated by flattery so that you lose objectivity.
  
  
• Try to create intimacy with a narcissist.
  
  
• Are so strongly affected by another that obsession results.
  
  
• Will forsake every personal limit to get sex or the promise of it.
  
  
• See your partner as causing your excitement.
  
  
• Feel hurt and victimized but not angry.
  
  
• Act out of compliance and compromise.
  
  
• Do favors that you inwardly resist (cannot say no).
  
  
• Disregard intuition in favor of wishes.
  
  
• Allow our partner to abuse your children or friends.
  
  
• Mostly feel afraid and confused.
  
  
• Are enmeshed in a drama that is beyond your control.
  
  
• Are living a life that is not yours and that seems unalterable.
  
  
• Commit yourself for as long as the other needs you to be committed (no bottom line).
  
  
• Believe you have no right to secrets.

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