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"Father’s Day"
My dad woke up one morning feeling, as
he put it, “Not quite right and a bit wobbly”. In
being the strong-willed, tenacious, non-complainer
that he is, he figured it was just part of the
package of being 80 years old.
However, after a few days of these lingering effects, he decided to
go see his doctor. Upon calling the doctor's
office, he was told that they had an appointment
opening in ten minutes. He took it knowing that my
mom had their only car and he would, therefore,
need to ride his bike about a mile up to the
clinic.
Once he got there and saw the doctor, my
dad was directed to go to the hospital A.S.A.P. to
be further evaluated. He told the doctor that he
would ride his bike home, call my mom, and go to
the hospital.
“Ride your bike??!!...You rode your bike
here??!!” exclaimed the doctor.
You see, the doctor suspected that my dad may have
had a stroke, hence, his very strong reaction to
bicycle riding.
My dad went to the hospital (my mom picked him up
at the doctor’s office, and they put the bike in
the trunk of their car); had all the tests and
various scans; and in the end it was determined
that he did, in fact, have a minor stroke.
I spoke to him after he got back home from all the
testing and although he said he felt a bit tired,
he was quite okay overall. You see, my dad is
always okay, and that is why I am embracing this
day as my own personal Father’s Day...A day for me
to reflect on and have gratitude for all that my
dad has given to me. I would like to share some
that with you.
- Tenacious – My dad doesn’t quit and although his
tenacity boarders on full-blown stubbornness at
times, he is quite the model of following-through
to the end, in spite of adversities.
- Keeping What Works – My dad was quite a basketball
player. At five feet nine inches, and weighing in
at about 160 pounds, he was never very big, but he
played big with his old-fashioned two-handed
set-shot. Nothing too fancy; just a little
“shake-and-bake”, and then swish. I can remember
seeing him hit four, five, and six in row. He kept
what worked because it worked for him and there
was no reason to change it.
- Commitment – My dad has been married to my mom for
over 55 years, and although I don’t quite
understand their relationship some of the time,
they have stuck together through “hell and
high-water”. Their commitment to their relationship,
and to each other, speaks of a loyalty that is
quite uncommon today.
- Adventure – We traveled and camped a lot in my
growing up years. We took 6 weeks one summer and
camped all the way across the U.S., from New York
to the Pacific coast, and back again. I got a
great appreciation of “roughing it” and the
outdoors...I am sure that has a lot to do with my
persistent desire to travel to new places whenever
I can.
- Spirituality – Although my dad and I have a very
different spiritual path, I am grateful for having
been brought up in an environment that had some
spiritual emphasis in it. I don’t know where I
would be today without my spirituality.
- Creativity – Although he will adamantly deny it,
my dad is very creative. Especially so in the way
he uses his space and his resources.
- Problem Solving – Perhaps a bit over-zealous at
times (He has been known to create problems which
he then has to resolve), my dad is a master at
brain-storming and working out a problem. He is a
great “fixer”.
- Smart – My dad is smart...real smart, but rather
humble about it (except when we are playing a
board game or card game, then he gets “smartly
competitive”). I’m sure that a significant part of
the various intelligences that I have today are a
direct result of my dad’s role modeling.
- Love – My dad loves me. Although he was not as
available as I would have liked in my growing up
years; was grumpy and crabby at times; and has
been emotionally distant at other times, I know
without a doubt that my dad loves me. He has
always been there when I needed him and he has
been an amazing provider. I know that I would not
be where I am in my life today if it was not for
his abundant love and support.
I share all this with you today for one reason:
All we have is today and we do not know what
tomorrow will bring or take away. If you have
resentments towards a loved one, I invite you to
work through them and let them go. If you haven’t
told a loved one lately how much you care about
them, then pick the phone and do that today. I
know I’m sounding a bit preachy, and yet I do
believe this message needs to be heard.
I invite you, and challenge you, to create an
“attitude of gratitude” by looking at what you DO
have a result of your relationships with others.
It is so much easier, and so much lighter, to be
grateful than it is to be resentful.
Furthermore, I invite you to create your own day;
your father’s day, mother’s day, brother’s or
sister’s day, or friend’s day. Celebrate the
gratitude, and spread the good news. After all,
all you have is today...

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